“Love is how you stay alive, even after you are gone.” ― Mitch Albom
There are some people who can make a big impact in your life no matter how short the time you got to know them.
I met Adrian (who shall henceforth be known as Boss, because that’s how I always knew him) in 2011, a few months after I graduated from college. The first thing he said after greeting everyone a good 6AM morning that day we met was “pareha man mong duha ug aping oi,” to me and to my then-boyfriend. Roughly translated: “Both of you have the same cheeks.”
Then he proceeded on teasing us that we looked so much alike, we look incestuous. Back then it took me aback. I knew the guy for the whole of three seconds before he started making, what in my opinion, were rather inappropriate jokes.
But as the day wore on, I learned that it was the just the way he was: he said things straight to your face, and it’s all in good jest. And it’s only been four years, but heck, since then, he’s been one hell of a friend.
Boss is one of those rare gems that can’t help but amaze you. He’s one smart son-of-a-gun but heck, he can party like no other. He’s gruff and no-nonsense, and eloquent and sweet at the same time. He would give you a smack if he thought you deserved it, but he never hesitated to give you a hug when you needed it, either. The truth is, Boss was layers and layers of beautiful complexities that we couldn’t even begin to scratch, and that’s perfectly fine.
What amazed me most of all was that he was so young, yet he inspired so many with his commanding presence and leadership, and his fierce, fierce friendship. This, coming from someone who knew him all of four very short years.
Boss, I’m never going to be able to share as many stories about you as your friends can. But friendship like yours is golden, and I am very thankful for having the honor of getting to know you. So thank you.
Thank you for being there to give us reality checks when our heads were too far up in the clouds.
Thank you for allowing us to rant and cry, then for telling us to suck it up and move on.
Thank you for sharing tidbits of wisdom, you were wise beyond your years.
Thank you for refusing to give in to too much drama, and thank you for supporting us all the same.
Thank you for being a brother, a friend, a confidant, an inspiration.
Thank you for being you.
Rest In Peace, Boss. You will always be remembered, and you will always be loved.
Our next few drinks (or more), we will toast to you.
We will see you soon.