You Are Not Your Dress Size

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In honor of National Eating Disorder Awareness Week, let us be aware that it is not healthy to be overweight. Obesity can kill. But being too thin does the same thing. You are not defined by your dress size. You are worth more than the pounds you put on.

 

 

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Pantene Says: Be Strong, and Shine

I just like this ad. Because labels seem to play such a big role on society, and people seem to get really affected by them.

The truth is that the modern world is still somehow sexist, but of course, many try to deny that because this is the twenty-first century, after all.

I think a lot of men are still afraid of the power of women, however, many women are contented also of being in the shadow, so that’s why only the truly fearless step out into the light.

I read somewhere that in business, women prefer male bosses than female ones, because, as depicted in this ad, women are labeled as bossy, among other things.

Maybe more women have to stop being afraid of labels, and do what they do. . After all, ladies, you can’t let a man define you, especially if you have to hide your light for them to shine in theirs. This is a new world, and if you drown your fear and show the strength you have inside you, without a doubt, you will shine.

 

Love,
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Being Called A “Bitch” Is Not Okay

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Last night, I was at the gym (I know, sounds weird) and I heard this girl fighting with her boyfriend on the phone.

It’s kinda difficult not to eavesdrop since there were only two of us in the locker room, and she wasn’t even trying to whisper. I can hear in her voice just how frustrated she was, because I’ve heard the same tone coming from me when I get frustrated.

It was uncomfortable enough as it is — there you were, changing out of your gym clothes and getting ready to get into the sauna. It gets even more uncomfortable when you hear a fight going on from a total stranger with her lover.

And then, she said. “Call me a bitch one more time, and I’ll hang up on you.”

The sad part is that she didn’t.

And I know that the guy on the other end of the phone repeatedly said those words to her, because she kept saying the same sentence over and over, but she never hung up.

I shuffled into the sauna and I can still hear her end of the conversation through the glass door.

A few minutes later, she got in the steam room, and it felt awkward. I wanted to say something, but I can’t because that would mean getting involved in affairs that I’m not part of.

It was quiet, and neither of us said anything.

She just sat there, looking out, and I heard her stifle a sniffle. Even in the dark room, I can tell that she’s crying quietly.

It’s sad, because you know what? The girl is beautiful, and she took those harsh words from someone who was supposed to love her.

Soon, I had to get out of the sauna, and I never said a word to her, like, “Being called that is not okay,” or “You should not let him do that to you.”

I really wanted to say those to her, but I couldn’t.

But here’s the deal — being called a bitch by your girl friends or your enemies, or other people — that’s fine, because it’s either a term of endearment nowadays, and opinions of others won’t matter if you don’t care about them anyway. But being called that by someone who was supposed to love you, and out of spite? That’s never okay.

And I just want you to know that.

 

With love,
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Passing Judgment

In the Medieval Period, people who are suspected of practicing witchcraft are burned at the stake. Never mind presuming innocence — when someone accuses you of being a witch, you will be burned at the stake, on the town square. Jesters and rotten tomatoes optional.

Sounds harsh?

The truth is that the modern age is even worse: when people put labels on you, you will get screwed, especially when it concerns character and reputation, or the misunderstanding of it.

I’m not going to lie — I judge people too. And the labels I stick are pretty harsh. I would probably keep on doing that. I would probably avoid people who I think are stupid. I would probably cross the street to keep from talking to a blabbermouth. I would probably go offline when a pretentious person chats me up on Facebook.

But you know what the problem is when you label people according to your prejudices? You keep yourself from growing as a person. Sure, you have to surround yourself with people that you want to be associated with. But as for everyone else? Give them a chance.

Traits are not all positive. And if a few negative traits make you forget all the good ones, maybe you are the one who needs to assess yourself. Of course, that does not mean the opposite is true, but when passing judgment, you have to weigh things, and see to which they lean toward to: the good, or the bad.

Of course, this isn’t a perfect world, and judgmental people are part of it. You will always be victimized by a Regina George in your life, and the thing is, you should not let her, and everyone else who judge you a little bit too harshly, affect you negatively.

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